YOUR MUSE IS MORE THAN THEIR ABUSE.
Yes, what they endured is absolutely a part of them, is a part of their past and an explanation to how and why they act as they do later in life. But you know what it doesn’t do? It doesn’t make it okay for you to make that ALL the character is. People are MORE than their abuse. The abuse doesn’t define a person’s entire being, doesn’t encompass everything that they are, and by you playing it as such is incredibly insulting.
Not only that, but by encouraging such behavior, by constantly putting them through horrible shit and PLAYING IT OUT is borderline sadistic and its gross. Angst is fine and dandy… everybody does it, everybody has angst that they place their muse through. BUT.
ANGST =/= ABUSE
Considering it as such is immensely insulting and demeaning.